Where has the time gone? I can’t believe I haven’t blogged in over a week (gasp!). I feel like the past 10 days have been busier than the past 3 months of my life combined. I'm not sure if that means I was just really busy over the past 10 days or I've had no life over the past 3 months (don't answer that). I have a lot to catch you guys up on, but I definitely can’t do it all in one post.
**Random side-note: there is a Sex in the City marathon on right now on E. I must say, now that I’m officially “dating” (if you could call it that) I think I have a greater appreciation for the show and all of its anecdotes. Right now it's during the season where Carrie’s with Jack Berger. Can someone remind me why she ended up with Mr. Big? I think I liked her character the best when she was with Berger, despite the fact he was wildly insecure. Big brought out all of Carrie’s worst qualities, IMO (needy, insecure, whiny, etc). He broke her heart like 800 times and she took him back time and time again. Then he stood her up on their wedding day, but it's okay, cause she forgave him. Anyway I'll stop ranting. I could devote a whole post to this.
Let's forget the whole post-it note debacle, shall we?
Speaking of dating, are you all on the edge of your seats waiting for an update? Ha.
I mentioned here about my second encounter with CTG. Well, last Thursday night he invited me to his apartment for some movie-watching and wine-drinking. Honestly, after being let down on our second date by his overwhelming shyness, I didn’t have high expectations, but thought maybe because he was in his own environment he would be a little more open.
Umm. About that.
He was actually a little more talkative than usual, and I’ll admit I picked a really really bad movie that did not help out awkward silences (Friends with Benefits…Natalie Portman, I lost a little respect for you after that) but I think after seeing him for a third time, it just confirmed that there is no chemistry there. I got that first kiss, but I was actually mid-sentence as he went in (of course I was, because who else would have been talking other than me?) and it was just kind of bad timing to say the least.
He definitely wants to see me again, because he asked several times if I was around this weekend (I actually wasn’t – I went home for my aunt’s surprise 60th birthday party). I’m just going to have to be honest with him. I feel badly, because he’s clearly a nice person, really nice actually, but there’s no use in beating a dead horse.
Did I mention we go to the same gym, shop at the same grocery store, and live five minutes from each other? Nice.
Anywayyy… let's rewind to last Wednesday night, shall we??
Last Wednesday I met up with M. I don't want to use names on the blog and I can't think of a clever acronym/nickname for him yet, so we'll just refer to him as M. First, the conversation flowed easily and I definitely felt some chemistry with him. We got drinks and chatted for about two hours before calling it a night. I liked that he poked fun at me and I was able to give it right back to him… when I told my friend Julianne this she responded, "so you were flirtatious together?" Yes, we were definitely flirtacious (at least I thought so).
The end of the date included him walking me to my car (a big plus) and a hug. He didn't mention anything about seeing me again, but I texted him about 24 hours later thanking him and saying that I had a good time, to which he then responded "Hey Mal so did I. Let's get together again sometime."
I honestly didn't know what to make of that. It seemed kind of vague. Based on my first two dates, who were extremely eager to see me again (maybe too eager?) I thought maybe he hadn't had as good a time as I thought, and that he just wasn't feeling it. Guys are pretty direct like that, you know?
Then he texted me on Friday night asking if I was in Worcester for the night, knowing I'd mentioned going home to CT this weekend. Ok, so I wasn't delusional, and maybe he is interested in seeing me again.
I was honestly dead tired from staying up all night on Thursday (no, not with CTG; I was fixing a stupid excel spreadsheet for work) so I told him I wasn't around but that "I'd like to get together again in the near future." The near future. The near future. Who the hell says that? I then texted him again telling him I re-read what I had sent and joked about how awkward I was.
Then my mom reassured me of how awkward I am. Thanks Mom.
Anyway, the conversation ended with him saying something like "the ball's in your court, text me when you're back." So I think that means I'm the one who's going to suggest something to do together next. I hate that. Mainly cause I'm bad at planning. I think I'm going to suggest going for a walk at a nearby park after work since the weather is supposed to be amazing this week (sunny and upper-60s). Is that horribly boring? What would you do?
If I've learned anything at all from my 3 dates so far, it's that the first date is not what should yield anxiety. The second date is what's intimidating (especially if you like the person…and if not, what are you doing going on a second date with them?) Think about it: you've already sat with this person for about 2 hours on the first encounter, asking them all the typical first-date questions, and you leave with a pretty general overview of who they are. You know where they're from, how many siblings they have, what they majored in, where they work, what they do for fun, etc etc etc. You have a pretty standardized list of topics to cover on the first date. But the second date? It's not so "by-the-book." It's kind of a test of whether you have real chemistry with this person or whether that first date was just a perfect combination of flattering lighting and particularly strong drinks.
And now I'm rambling, so I'll leave it at that. But I feel like I have a million more updates to give you guys, on other areas of my life, and I have a bunch of post ideas that I want to write this week! I've missed you guys and your hilarious/wonderful comments!
- What would you suggest to do on a 2nd date?
- Who was your favorite on SATC: Big, Aidan, or Berger?